Do you have any problem dating a younger man?

I figure I don't really have a problem dating a younger guy and I don't want to be called a pedophile because essentially I am dating guys over the legal age but preferably not around the legal age but at least over the legal age unlike some people who can't even wait for a young child to have their umbilical cords dried off of them. Sometimes a younger guy over the legal age of like 21, they're mentality or their maturity level isn't really there on an older person's level. And they definitely don't have as much experience in the world so conversations could be limited to video games, food, dreams and ambitions, and just overall just hanging out more often than not. So dating a younger guy, has its ups and then also has a little bit of a limited thing. From what I've seen and experienced when I was dating a younger guy, they were definitely a lot of fun to hang out with and seemed really carefree and just overall probably happy and stuff like that. But a little bit of the downside was that, they just weren't as like worldly experienced quite yet some of them? And or just there maturity levels sometimes it was apparent that they were still younger than me. So like for example, I know I dated somebody younger than me and one day they wanted to watch a show together with me and him. And I normally like the news sometimes, and I also like some reality base shows as well as cooking channels, and some animal or pet channels. But this younger guy that I was dating, started turning on all kinds of cartoons that are popular among the younger generation these days? And most of these cartoons that he was turning on, I've either never heard of ever in my life or they had a really weird sense of humor that was inside of them. It was like really weird. Some of these cartoons are really weird nowadays. So first of all, it was hard for me to laugh along with him during these cartoons even though I did laugh at times but at other times it was really weird. It was so weird that I couldn't laugh but he was laughing really hard! And I mean like when I say he was laughing hard he was like really understanding the humorous side of what the cartoon was trying to do or say. But even though I understand in general like what the cartoon was saying, I just couldn't really get along with that kind of humor. It just seemed really weird. So and then also another thing, the parts where he would laugh, it was like a parent that his maturity level was a little bit different than mine? And that was the only time that I realized that it was obvious that I was dating a younger guy. But at other times, I really liked it when we would not watch cartoons together because first of all I didn't like the cartoons that he liked. But I did like other times when I was hanging out with him because he just seemed not like he was going around and judging everything like some adults do? They go around and scrutinize everything and also the complaining thing. Like I like when I go out with younger guy and he has no complaints at all and he's supposedly cool with everything so far. Like they'll use those words too. And they're really sometimes just act like they're really just cool with everything and they're happy with what's going on and they're not as judgmental as some of us older people are. So that's why I appreciated going out with a somewhat younger guy. But the cartoon thing was really uncomfortable for me because that was one point where me and him just could not. And at one point I was like I'm not interested in this and I want to go do something else and he wanted me to sit down and watch it with him. And I'm like I don't find this interesting whatsoever! So and also some of the things that I was doing, probably definitely did not interest him whatsoever either. But there were times where we were able to find mutual interest and really get along and go have a lot of fun as well as finding funny and real like a fierce activities to do. The one downside about dating some guy that's around my age? Is that a lot of guys my age are kind of like worn out and because they've already been through everything that they're usually is available to go through in life? They're not as enthusiastic or curious or interested? And so their attitude a lot of times is really dull? They're like I don't know like guys my age like in their 40s they seem really dull and tired and sometimes lazy as well as spoiled as well as judgmental as well as quite frankly just flat out boring. I mean and so like that dullness aspect really kind of turns me off about wanting to go out with a guy my age? Because I'm not trying to be dull. Like I would really like a second chance in the second part of my life to be as bright and happy or happier than I was in the first part of my life so the thought of getting with a guy my age that is dull like that really turns me off! I don't want to have to like act like I'm giving up in life and just fucking be boring and complain about everything and judge everything and whatever. And I know that some guys my age are like mature sometimes and happy sometimes to do whatever I want to do for the both of us? But like they still seem kind of dull and not really interested? So not interested in like exciting things and stuff like that it's like kind of gross actually. And then a lot of guys after the pandemic they grow they've grown out a lot of facial hair and they never even die their hair. And they hardly ever shave anymore on their faces? And their hair needs a haircut and they're not really paying attention to skin Care on their face especially so guys my age their skin is like dull along with their personalities that are dull so it's like I would feel like I basically gave up if I had to get with a guy that was my age. I would feel like that would be the end of any kind of second phase or second try into the next chapter of my life here I would feel like I gave up honestly. And I don't want to feel that way. Because I actually had a really up and down first half of my life and I'm really looking for way better times and way happier moments in the second part of my life and I really feel like some guys my age would really drag me down. They would like I don't know just I'm not currently really interested in a lot of guys my age just because of that. And but anyway that you know just the maturity level sometimes is one thing that might be a situation when dating a younger guy. A little bit. But I also have the maturity level that is not as mature but still mature, but I guess just not dull like other people my age? I don't know if you would call that mature or immature or if even that is the problem with dullness but I'm not interested in being that kind of way. So I feel like the idea of dating someone that's a little bit younger than me is probably going to be okay? But like if I ever were to go out with somebody that was like really young? Like mid-twenties or late twenties? Which I already had the opportunity to hang out with and I do remember that it was like different. It was different and what I did like about it was that they seem like if they ever got older, that they would actually be really good boyfriends. Like I felt like they would probably be really good boyfriends maybe not right now but I mean eventually they probably would be. Some older or some younger guys actually are nowadays really mature for being as young as they are. And that doesn't take away the fact that their experience level is still a little bit lower than mine? Because I've been through a lot and I've already seen a lot. And I know a lot as far as like the miscellaneous part of life goes. And so, you know I could never explain what I know to them without them cringing their face or looking confused because I can guarantee you that if I were to like share my life story with them? They would either be high highly confused because they literally have no idea what I'm talking about and not only do they know or not only do they not know what I'm talking about but they would find it really boring because of the fact that they don't know what I'm talking about. So I would probably come across as really boring to them unless they found out actually I'm into like things that you know probably a lot of like not dull people are into? I still like fun things and I still like to do those things and I know my age people they're going to call me immature. You know I've already heard from some Asian people well a couple actually, but they thought that it would be really immature at my age if I continue to do some of the things that I did. But they're not paying me a lot of money specifically specifically nothing at all for their opinion. So their opinion and calling me immature at my age means nothing to me at that point because even if I came across as mature for my age? Someone like that probably still wouldn't like me regardless of what I did. So I'm not going to live my life to try to impress them because they're nobody to me! And second of all, I really could care less if you see me as immature or mature or whatever fuck you want to see me as at my age? Because you literally have never even contributed anything in my life that I wanted contributed to my life. You've only contributed a bunch of fucking talking and also, who knows what kind of shit oh and judgment and scrutiny that has saddened me and depressed me to the point where I was probably abusing way more alcohol than I should have for as long as I did. And then began to use drugs because of people like that because when someone scrutinizes you like that? It's like you can't do anything because even when you please them, they're still going to bitch about you! So let's say I was to do something really mature? For someone my age for example? A person like that would probably talk shit about me behind my back about something else that I was doing I can fucking guarantee you that! And second of all, I realize that it's probably best in my best interest or whatever to just basically be myself. Who knows what kind of shit that would have been presented to me had I presented myself as supposedly mature for my age? You know what I mean? What kind what other kind of bullshit would I be presented with at that time? Because I know there was a point in my life where I did act mature for my age. I already know it! I know that there were times where I was able to wear super nice clothes and pretend like I was going to be the best secretary you've ever had! I know that there was there were times where I acted so mature for my age and everyone seemed to like me but not really. Because who gives a shit what the fuck they thought about me? I mean literally what were some of the super great things that happened after someone thought that I was mature for my age? Something that happened for me I mean? For me? Nothing! They only wanted me to act mature for my age because they were in the process of tricking me and manipulating me so they can present me with more bullshit! So regardless if I was mature or immature for my age, they were preparing me through their insults and their judgment for trickery and deceit and manipulation and abuse and usage. They were either going to use me or abuse me or whatever the fuck. Probably continue to fucking watch me and scrutinize everything I did. So I really don't give a shit if you see me for mature for my age. I really don't give a shit and in fact if you're one of those people that have ever said that girl doesn't act her age. That's or there are like words for that. I know that in the Korean language, when these like bitches or these fucking dick heads they see somebody not acting their age? They use like these certain words and they're like really hurtful words! Like who the fuck do they think they are trying to judge who the fuck I am? They're not paying me or fucking dime to become who the fuck they want me to be. So literally nothing gigantic beneficial monetary relationship success wise has ever benefited to me from someone saying that I was acting mature for my age. Like literally nothing fucking came out of it except the fact that I had seemed like I finally fucking gain their stupid ass approval. Big fucking wow! You know what I mean? Like big fucking wow so now you're saying that I'm acting mature for my age? Wow we need to go out and fucking have a fucking parade and have a big celebratory dinner because you think that I'm acting mature for my fucking age! Big fucking who cares? But yeah I know but she's like that they don't like me. You know you already know that bitch is like that they don't like me. And dick heads like that they don't like me. You can already tell by the way that I talk? They're not going to like me. They're going to probably be like excuse me? So you're going to not act your age and you're going to date younger guys and then they're going to fucking Snicker at me and talk shit about me like as if me fucking pleasing them is the is the fucking goal of the universe. Like as if that's going to bring me joy and happiness for the rest of my life because I finally pleased some dick heads personal goals to try to have me at my age. Oh my gosh who gives a shit what this fucking dick head thinks? Literally he's been a fucking dick head to me all my fucking life! So I just figure I'm going to be myself. You know if I want to date a younger guy, fuck you and you're fucked up comments because I'm going to date a younger guy. Instead of continuously saying that it looks ugly if you date a younger guy. It looks gross and disgusting and it looks like you're being immature for your age if you date a younger guy. Oh so you think that your opinion is somehow the saving Grace to everything that I've ever wanted? Oh my gosh we need to go out there because you think that it looks stupid and ugly if I date a younger guy oh my God there's fucking starving children and rabbis better molesting and raping 8-day-old children and you are concerned how ugly I look if I date a younger guy. Instead of realizing the fact that we have on American soil rabbis that are putting their mouth on an eight day old babies penis after mutilating it. Oh but that doesn't matter. That really doesn't matter right now because right now what matters is the fact that if you date a younger guy, you're going to look crazy. As if that has anything to do with my happiness. Do you realize if at this point I was to get with a guy my age? I'm going to guarantee you and I really mean this because I actually have thought about this for about a few weeks. And I thought about it and I thought about it. And I imagine myself with somebody my age maybe a little bit older okay? Maybe like five within 5 years of my age. From my age to 5 years older than me. And I really thought about this for a long time. I tried to observe you know how they are. I tried to observe how they look and how they talk and you know and stuff like that. And what they like to eat and drink and things like that. And also, before those two weeks I did go on a date with somebody my age. And then within the last year, I did hang out and go on a date with somebody close to my age but not exactly my age. And I really did try. I really did try to be happy. Because I really wanted it so badly that you know I just wanted it but I realized that I didn't want that. And one of them I was really miserable because he talked ugly. And honestly the other guy, I just for some reason there wasn't anything there. I mean I didn't like how like weird he was. This guy was like one of those well both guys my age were financially pretty happy let's just say. They were probably more than just financially happy, I mean they had their assets and they had their bank accounts and all that shit you know what I mean? And I don't know why I just wasn't fucking clicking with them. I just I don't know why it's like I felt like I was giving up on life or something. I don't know like their personalities were like really not as curious and interesting and exciting and funny as I wanted them to be. And the funny part is really important for me because I tend to be really miserable if there's not something that I'm laughing at. Like I really like to laugh sometimes. And sometimes I'll laugh at the most unusual things at the most unusual times. Because I actually really actually find that humorous. I really actually find a lot of things humorous. I don't know why? But that's all I know about myself as far as that goes. I don't know why exactly that is? But for some reason I find a lot of things very funny. And so I will laugh at small humor things and then I will laugh at like big humor things but whatever it is, that is one thing about me that is a little bit different from other people is that even when I'm like talking to a stranger like let's say the Lyft driver? Or some cash register person? And they say something remotely funny or they do something remotely funny? I feel like they're okay with me sort of laughing at them and I will do it. Like even though they're complete strangers! So like I really want somebody almost like that maybe not exactly but then again it wouldn't hurt if they were kind of like that too. You know what I mean? But like I just for some reason just I couldn't laugh with these guys. Like whatever they found funny, I didn't find funny! I mean and it was apparent with these guys that like I don't know what they found funny! Because literally we were on these dates for like hours we were hanging out for hours you know and also texting and phone calling sometimes or emailing or whatever and not a single dose of anything funny whatsoever. I mean not even us sarcastic joke or a comment or something I mean God you know like even like newborn babies they will start laughing at you! You know what I mean? Like you know like laughter is even mentioned in like religious manuscript. You know what I'm eating so like I feel like some younger guys that I date that's also another thing is that one thing about dating younger guys than me is that right there. Is exactly that. Like they will like say or do things that are so funny sometimes and it's like man I wish guys my age had this. You know what I mean it's like they're either like worn out from living life or they've never been funny before and I know that a lot of guys out there they like being funny. They like being stupid funny sometimes just on purpose just so they can make somebody laugh especially like their girlfriend or something. But I want to be with a guy that is at least going to try to make his girlfriend laugh every so often you know what I mean? Like do something silly and that's another thing about me is like the silly Factor too. Like I don't know why but when my boyfriend is being silly is that is the one thing that is definitely going to make me like you. Like that is going to solidify or start to solidify any kind of interest that maybe even wasn't there in the first place! I mean even if I didn't like you? And well I do have to like you and be attracted to you but the second part would be like if the relationship or the mutual attraction isn't solidified? I know that humor would absolutely start to solidify it for me at least. Like I for some reason and one of those girlfriends where if I didn't actually like you before even if you're my boyfriend and I was thinking about dumping you, if you are really funny or like something about you is silly and light-hearted? I'm more than likely not going to dump you. I mean because where are you going to find someone like that? I mean literally I've been around these kinds of guys and there's hardly any guy that says anything like funny or even knows a single fucking joke anymore! I mean how are you going to not know a single joke in your life? How are you not going to know how to do at least one thing that's really silly that's not dangerous of course and you call yourself a man? You know what I mean you got to like like men especially they're like supposed to be somewhat silly. Like somewhat to some degree without putting their lives at risk and putting other lives at risk but I mean they're the ones that are supposed to make everybody laugh that usually do. I mean it's not the females job but also like females can also be silly but it's usually in my opinion the man's job really to do that kind of thing because sometimes they're actually really good at it! You know what I mean? And like even when they're doing like an impression of some Hollywood characters or something it's like really good you know what I mean like some guys they can do impressions of other people and it's really funny. Or instead of just like bringing up these parts in old movies that we both can remember which I don't find humorous at all because it's not meant to be humorous! Why don't you like do something? I mean but it's like okay well we're just going to go through life as doll as possible and give up because we're getting older now. We're going to fucking sit around and talk about sex and oh God and that's another thing is like when a guy is not being funny or has never made me laugh? And then he starts to talk about sex? Oh my gosh it's like no like that is one of the most discovered oh my God like I literally had to be in some other place mentally to even go there with some of these guys. Like I was on one. And I did you know get a little personal but man I was I felt like I was like forced like I had no fucking choice. Like nobody else wants me! A fucking hot guy with a sense of humor doesn't want me so I felt like I could turn nowhere else! And it's like I mean how long do I have to wait until a gorgeous guy with a sense of humor is going to like me question I might have to wait for 10 more fucking years! But the real question is, am I willing to wait? If in fact I have to wait 10 or 20 years for a gorgeous and funny handsome prince too Courtney and to get into a relationship with me? Am I willing to do it? Probably. 10 years actually doesn't sound that far away honestly. Because these days even seems like it's going by so fast and I did not even know yesterday was friday! I was so shocked because that happened to me last week! Last week Saturday came and I thought it was thursday! Oh my God and then yesterday, I thought it was something like Wednesday or Thursday but then I looked at my phone to finally check what day it is to confirm if it's Wednesday or Thursday and then I come to find out that my phone says friday! Oh my gosh so already my days are going by so fast. But I know that if I were to get into a relationship with someone that I like? These days would go by much slower and much happier and more meaning and abundance to it. And we would be able to slow down Ellie's as far as like slowing down sometimes. And then you know go do things as a couple and then it wouldn't seem like the days would be going by so fast! But like I don't know. Like but I know that another thing about dating a guy's my age, they're probably really good at the courting thing? Like the romancing thing? Sort of so like you imagine you're going to have some kind of relationship that is going to be from a movie or something. You know and you think that it's probably going to be exactly like the movies! You know what I mean like the whole going around and walking around on your dates at Central Park type of thing and you're having your silly conversation and then you're going out to eat and then there's some drama somewhere. You know it's like just like in the movies! But for some reason sometimes it's not exactly that way! Like in reality it's like for example they're comments? Sometimes guys my age, they're comments are like what the fuck how the fuck are you going to say stuff like that? You know what I mean but then with younger guys, I mean at least the ones I've met or been around, they don't really do that kind of thing I mean sometimes. They might say some stupid ass shit but they just usually like to kind of play it cool and then get really bored when it's time to get bored because it probably is boring at some times and then we would need to go find something really fun to do! Because more than likely if they're bored then I'm going to be bored! And so that's why I think like a guy that has some kind of sense of humor is really good for me because during those awkward times when we're trying to decide on a mutual activity such as taking a walk or going to the library or something, you know at least during those awkward times, it would be much easier to be around each other if one of us was not so uptight and disgusting. And it's really hard to find out because most guys like that are probably going to be in a relationships already and they probably have children and she'll like that so I'm either going to get stuck with somebody that I don't want to be with and then I'm going to be highly miserable. Or I'm going to be single and miserable. Man so some days I worry. I worry that I'm not going to you know be able to do something but I don't want some kind of leftover guy that's going to be freaking boring and stupid. So I don't remember the original question I think if I remember correctly the original question has something to do with something I know that there was something in the question area and that was the main reason why I'm here. So I'm trying to remember what the question was. And the question has something to do with I don't remember. I actually have talked so much that I actually forgot the question itself. So instead of scrolling to the top to see what the original question was, I like to do things like try to remember what the question was. So I think the question had something to do with I really don't remember! Oh my gosh I really don't even have a clue what the question was because I've been talking so much! So I'm not sure what the question was but I think wait a second I'm going to try my hardest. Oh the younger guys this question was asking what it's like to date younger guys or something along those lines. And yeah now I remember. So I'm wondering if maybe some way oh yeah I got other things to work on so yeah that was my reply to this question.